Warning Signs

If a person is forced to change their behaviour because they are frightened of their partner then they are being abused.

We are using the word partner, but domestic abuse can occur in other relationships.
If you or someone you know are experiencing any of the following then it’s likely that you being abused:

  • Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way & play it off as a “joke” or tell you you’re being too sensitive?
  • Does your partner call you names such as “stupid” or “bitch”?
  • Does your partner act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers or coerce you into avoiding or not spending time with them?
  • Does your partner get angry about, or make you change, the clothes & shoes you wear, how you style your hair, or whether or not you wear makeup?
  • Does your partner check-up on you by repeatedly calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?
  • Has your partner gone to places with you or sent someone just to “keep an eye on you”?
  • Does your partner insist on knowing who you talk with on the phone, check your call log or phone bill?
  • Does your partner blame you for their problems or their bad mood?
  • Does your partner get angry so easily that you feel like you’re “walking on eggshells”?
  • Does your partner hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things to scare you?
  • Does your partner often drink or use drugs?
  • Does your partner insist that you drink or use drugs with them?
  • Have you lost friends or no longer see some of your family because of your partner?
  • Does your partner accuse you of being interested in someone else or cheating on them?
  • Does your partner hit you, put their hands around your throat or throw objects at you?
  • Does your partner read your e-mail, check your computer history, go through your purse, or other personal papers?
  • Does your partner keep money from you, keep you in debt, or have “money secrets?”
  • Has your partner kept you from getting a job, or caused you to lose a job?
  • Has your partner sold your car, made you give up your license, or not repaired your car?
  • Does your partner threaten to hurt you, your children, family, friends, or pets?
  • Does your partner force you to have sex when you do not want to?
  • Does your partner force you to have sex in ways that you do not want to?
  • Does your partner threaten to kill you or themselves if you leave?
  • Is your partner like “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde,” acting one way in front of other people and another way when you are alone?

These are just examples, if you think you are being abused please contact us

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