What is a healthy relationship?

Healthy relationships allow both partners to feel supported and connected but still feel independent.

Communication and boundaries are the two main characteristics of a healthy relationship. If something doesn’t feel right, you should have the freedom to voice your concerns to your partner.

Communication

Communication allows you and your partner to have a deep understanding of each other, and allows you to connect. In a healthy relationship with good communication, both partners:

  • Treat each other with respect
  • Speak openly to one another about thoughts and feelings
  • Feel heard when expressing feelings
  • Listen to each other and compromise
  • Do not criticise each other
  • Feel supported to do the things they like
  • Celebrate each other’s accomplishments and successes

Boundaries

Each person should express to their partner what they are and are not comfortable with when it comes to their sex life, finances, family and friends, personal space and time. In a healthy relationship with boundaries, both partners:

  • Allow each other to spend time with friends and family
  • Do not abuse technology to check on a partner
  • Trust each other and not require their partner to “check in”
  • Do not pressure the other to do things that they don’t want to do
  • Do not constantly accuse the other of cheating or being unfaithful

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