What is Consent?

  • Consent is someone giving permission or agreeing to something, after they have thought carefully about whether or not they want to do something.
  • To be able to give your consent you should be sure that it is your decision and not one you have been pressured to make.
  • The law in the UK says that both people need to give their consent before sex or any physical closeness.
  • The law also says that to consent to sex a person must be over 16 and have the ability to make informed decisions for themselves.

Being pressured 

If you are being forced or pressured into doing sexual things you don’t like or aren’t sure about, then this is abuse. There are ways someone might try to make you do things without physically forcing you, these can include:

  • Being made to feel stupid or bad for saying ‘no’
  • Being bullied into having sex
  • Being encouraged to drink lots of alcohol or take drugs to make you more likely to have sex
  • Manipulating your emotions, for example saying ‘If you loved me you would…’

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  • "I have found the support from Southern Domestic Abuse Service life saving for me. Without the support I couldn't imagine how my family and I could have moved on with our lives. I am eternally grateful for all your support both emotionally and advisory. I have gained so much more self worth from your help. Thank you from the bottom of my heart." Kerrie

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